Psych A Cheaters Signs Of Infidelity

For some men, a single relationship isn’t enough. What women dread the most is when their guy starts to loose interest in them. It's a sign of infidelity! This is the hardest situation to admit for a woman—admitting that their man is showing signs of infidelity.

Take the case of South Carolina Gov.Mark Sanford who after disappearing for several days without informing his staff and family, admitted that he was unfaithful to his wife and was having an affair with another woman. Let’s explore ways in dealing with cheating and unfaithful men—why and how they can pull off betraying their partners. But it’s not just the men.

You can also ask why women cheat as well since often times the reasoning behind both scenarios are the same. The question many women ask is why do men show signs of infidelity? The thing is while guys want the emotional connection of a relationship they won’t really choose between partners.

It’s easier then ever to hook up with people outside of your social circle. When people socialize in different environments, they don’t have to tell the whole truth about themselves because there’s no one there to call them out. Online dating is making it even easier to play around and harder to distinguish the signs of infidelity.

Surviving Infidelity: Why Do Affairs Start ?

When you're in a marriage struggling to survive infidelity, it might seem odd to think about why affairs start in the first place. But this is an important part of surviving infidelity. Knowing how affairs start gives you the understanding to know how to put your marriage back together - especially if your cheating spouse isn't on board with the idea yet.

Most of think that affairs begin when some dashing young man or slinky, beautiful woman enters our spouse's life. We conjure up images of seduction, intrigue, and mystery; we think the other person could have any partner he or she wants, but has targeted your spouse.

In reality, it's rarely - if ever - how it works. The "other person" is far more likely to be an old friend, a co-worker, or a friend-of a friend than a dashing Cassanova.

And most of the time, things don't start out with the intention of igniting an affair. Quite the contrary, an affair usually starts innocently - a water cooler conversation, a lunch break, a walk down to the corner Starbucks for coffee. No big deal - friends, even those of the opposite sex, do all of those things every day without ending up in an affair.

Get Pregnant Before Marriage

In societies where marriage is non-existent, this statement is irrelevant. People stack up, shack up and rack up at will. Whenever they have the urge they merge and produce babies out of wedlock. To them there is no big deal in making the decision to have kids. The answer lies between their legs. They just live together with no commitments or strings attached. The common escape clause is "... marriage is just a piece of paper..."

On the other hand, people in societies that value the sanctity of marriage sometimes are thorn between the decisions whether the bride should get pregnant before the wedding day or not. Often, both families are committed to the wedding and the likelihood of the wedding falling through is remote.

Indecision like this sometimes arises because

• Some traditions require the bride to be pregnant before marriage to prove her fertility and ability to raise children. The bride could be a virgin, but traditions requires she is pregnant to fulfill the rites
• Promiscuity the ever increasing rate of pre-marital sex and abortions cast doubt on the fertility of ladies and the potency of the men. Hence the litmus test regardless of medical examination is for the intended bride to be impregnated by the groom.
• Pressure from parents in need of grandchildren. There are situations where the parents have strong hold on their children. To their children, it's their utmost desire to please them as an act of respect.
• As a trap to hasten the marriage process. Perhaps you been in a relationship for what seems like ages, you are both committed to the relationship but he hasn't proposed of said anything about getting married. As each day goes by, you feel you are getting older and your patience is running out. Breaking up and contemplating another relationship is out of the question.
  

It is very easy to conclude that anyone caught in this dilemma is not a Christian, born again or knows the bible. But it is often not the case. The unbeliever or non-Christian without any religious inclination or moral value does not have this problem. He or she just goes ahead without any inhibitions to the applause and commendation of others.

As a Christian when faced with a situation like this, what should we do?
The bible is clear on fornication, so the answer is not to concede to the pressure or act on these thoughts when they come. Though the answer is straight forward and clear, the situation doesn't just vanish overnight. The decision to abstain from sex until marriage needs to be followed through and steps taken to ensure one does not concede. It can be a trying moment especially for ladies but it won't last for long.

Sometimes we feel very isolated or believe our situation is an isolated case, but the truth is that it isn't. It is very possible that there are a thousand and one individuals in exactly the same situation but the 'holy art thou' attitude help shield our troubled souls. Your maturity and how much of the bible you know would determine your cause of action. But here are a few suggestions depending on where the pressure is coming from:

• Phone-a-friend. Find a trustworthy friend you can talk to and share your heart, one who would not despise your thought or try to cast out demons from you. If you are in a bible believing church, seek out one of the elders you can share you burden with and receive godly counsel.
  
• It might not be as easy as working out of the relationship if the pressure if from your fiancé. He may be passing though a hard time and under pressure. He might need help and counsel as well. You would be in a better position to help him by speaking 'the friend' to give him godly counsel.
• A simple medical examination to ascertain you fertility and potency could take of the pressure and restore confidence. It is advisable however, that you take a test before getting married, pressure or no pressure.
• If the pressure is from parents, confronting them and quoting bible passages may not be the best way to go about it. What would probably work out better is you lie low for a while, pray and trust God to change their hearts to accept your decisions even if they don't agree. It would be ideal to marry with the blessings of your parents even if they are not Christians. Running off and getting married on an island won't so the trick.
• In the case where you mind is playing games on you, you may need to have a heart-to-heart talk with your fiancé and let him know your concerns. You don't want to be engaged for 10 years still waiting to get married. Talk things out and if the situation doesn't improve revert to phone-a-friend.
  

Don't underestimate the power of prayers. Whatever steps you take you must seek God's face and guidance. Study the bible and find scriptures about your situation and stand on them. Confess them daily and let them be a part of you. Be in the midst of godly people that would encourage you and build your faith. It won't last for long.

Is It Better To Live Together Before Marriage?

People are changing their mentalities and views on this rather hot topic, especially in today's ever changing society. More and more couples are taking this road and living together before making the big decision as to whether they wish to spend the rest of their lives together.

Of course, who is to blame for all the divorces happening in today's society? Generations ago, when people got married, it really was "for better or for worse". They stuck it out, through sickness, health, adultery, everything. But now, you do not go a day without hearing about someone's marriage falling apart. So does this mean that it is a good idea to live together?

Many people who wait to live with someone until they are married are religious. As the Bible says, you should not live with someone unless you are married. You should not have sex unless you are married. But again, in our society, there are few virgins left. Our generation loses their virginity in their early teens. So this does not really apply to us anymore. Couples are still having sex whether they are living together or not.

Couples who live together often say that they do this prior to marriage because they want to see if their partner and they will really fit together... to get to really know them. So, they live together. I was once told by someone who is married, "You will never really know the other person until you live with them". This is so true. Now many people say, especially religious persons, that you do not need to live with a person, all you have to do is spend a lot of time together. Although I do see some sense in this, it is still a very big issue that a lot of people wear masks while dating. They may keep these masks on for years. So even if you date someone for 5 years, they may still turn out to be someone totally different once you marry.

In my opinion, which is based on observing so many different relationships, both married, living together and dating, I have come to realize that it may be good to live together before marriage. I mean, who would be proud of saying that they have been married 5 times because they got married at a young age and it did not work out, so they got married over and over again? Of course, marriage is a great thing, if you are ready for it. It all just depends on who you are, you values and background and where you are in life. To each his own.