A happy romance can make you feel on top of the world. The problem comes when the relationship ends in an ugly, heart wrenching breakup. Here is some advice for a broken heart that will change the way you look at where you are in life now.
Right now you might be feeling like this is the end of the story, and the grief might seem unbearable. All you can think about are the happy times you had with your lover who is now your ex.
Healing a broken heart can take time and no one is trying to rush you. But we would like to give you an alternative way to look at your life and the prospects you have before you.
Some people concentrate so much on the past that they have trouble living in the present, and therefore let pass by some even better opportunities than they have ever had before.
You may see your broken relationship as the end of the story. What I would like to do is convince you to think of it as merely the end of one chapter in an exciting book. If that last chapter was so good, why can't the next one be even better?
And in fact the next chapter of your life can be better; in part because you have lived that last chapter and can learn from it. We all make mistakes and need to learn to shake them off and not dwell on them.
One great piece of advice for a broken heart is to let go. With any bad experience, relationship or otherwise, we need to file them away and move forward concentrating on the opportunities before us. Every new day is a new opportunity.
You may need some time to feel sorry or even angry about the relationship breakup you just went through. That is natural and OK; what is not OK is to dwell on it for too long. Set a time limit of how long you will allow yourself to feel and then purge those emotions.
Perhaps a week, maybe two. But to let yourself dwell on the past any longer than that is simply not going to do you any good. And if you dwell on that past experience too long you may find that some of your friends who initially stood by you will start falling away one by one.
No one wants to with someone who is down all the time. Forgive your ex for what he or she did to you. If your conscience is bothering you about what you said or did then take responsibility for it by apologizing to them; expecting nothing in return. This will help speed the healing of your broken heart.
Then start work on improving yourself. Resolve to eat better, exercise more and get out to meet people or enjoy the friends you already have. Maybe you gave up a hobby or past time to be with that someone before, well, they are gone now so what is stopping you from doing what you want to do with your time?
Start work today on that new chapter in your life and actively seek out ways to make it the best yet. Fix yourself up so you look your best, put a smile on your face and go out to meet new people and do new things.
When you find someone you are interested in, use the lessons you learned in the past relationship to better understand how to move forward in the next one. Avoid another broken heart by utilizing what you have learned in the past and apply it with anyone in the future you get involved with.
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