Get Pregnant Before Marriage

In societies where marriage is non-existent, this statement is irrelevant. People stack up, shack up and rack up at will. Whenever they have the urge they merge and produce babies out of wedlock. To them there is no big deal in making the decision to have kids. The answer lies between their legs. They just live together with no commitments or strings attached. The common escape clause is "... marriage is just a piece of paper..."

On the other hand, people in societies that value the sanctity of marriage sometimes are thorn between the decisions whether the bride should get pregnant before the wedding day or not. Often, both families are committed to the wedding and the likelihood of the wedding falling through is remote.

Indecision like this sometimes arises because

• Some traditions require the bride to be pregnant before marriage to prove her fertility and ability to raise children. The bride could be a virgin, but traditions requires she is pregnant to fulfill the rites
• Promiscuity the ever increasing rate of pre-marital sex and abortions cast doubt on the fertility of ladies and the potency of the men. Hence the litmus test regardless of medical examination is for the intended bride to be impregnated by the groom.
• Pressure from parents in need of grandchildren. There are situations where the parents have strong hold on their children. To their children, it's their utmost desire to please them as an act of respect.
• As a trap to hasten the marriage process. Perhaps you been in a relationship for what seems like ages, you are both committed to the relationship but he hasn't proposed of said anything about getting married. As each day goes by, you feel you are getting older and your patience is running out. Breaking up and contemplating another relationship is out of the question.
  

It is very easy to conclude that anyone caught in this dilemma is not a Christian, born again or knows the bible. But it is often not the case. The unbeliever or non-Christian without any religious inclination or moral value does not have this problem. He or she just goes ahead without any inhibitions to the applause and commendation of others.

As a Christian when faced with a situation like this, what should we do?
The bible is clear on fornication, so the answer is not to concede to the pressure or act on these thoughts when they come. Though the answer is straight forward and clear, the situation doesn't just vanish overnight. The decision to abstain from sex until marriage needs to be followed through and steps taken to ensure one does not concede. It can be a trying moment especially for ladies but it won't last for long.

Sometimes we feel very isolated or believe our situation is an isolated case, but the truth is that it isn't. It is very possible that there are a thousand and one individuals in exactly the same situation but the 'holy art thou' attitude help shield our troubled souls. Your maturity and how much of the bible you know would determine your cause of action. But here are a few suggestions depending on where the pressure is coming from:

• Phone-a-friend. Find a trustworthy friend you can talk to and share your heart, one who would not despise your thought or try to cast out demons from you. If you are in a bible believing church, seek out one of the elders you can share you burden with and receive godly counsel.
  
• It might not be as easy as working out of the relationship if the pressure if from your fiancé. He may be passing though a hard time and under pressure. He might need help and counsel as well. You would be in a better position to help him by speaking 'the friend' to give him godly counsel.
• A simple medical examination to ascertain you fertility and potency could take of the pressure and restore confidence. It is advisable however, that you take a test before getting married, pressure or no pressure.
• If the pressure is from parents, confronting them and quoting bible passages may not be the best way to go about it. What would probably work out better is you lie low for a while, pray and trust God to change their hearts to accept your decisions even if they don't agree. It would be ideal to marry with the blessings of your parents even if they are not Christians. Running off and getting married on an island won't so the trick.
• In the case where you mind is playing games on you, you may need to have a heart-to-heart talk with your fiancé and let him know your concerns. You don't want to be engaged for 10 years still waiting to get married. Talk things out and if the situation doesn't improve revert to phone-a-friend.
  

Don't underestimate the power of prayers. Whatever steps you take you must seek God's face and guidance. Study the bible and find scriptures about your situation and stand on them. Confess them daily and let them be a part of you. Be in the midst of godly people that would encourage you and build your faith. It won't last for long.

How to Keep Your Teen to become pregnant

It frustrates me to know end that people are against the teaching of abstinence. Their defense is that children are going to do anyway if instead we should be teaching about birth control. I agree that birth control should be taught, but abstinence is birth control.
There is absolutely no way of getting pregnant if you're sober. Other methods sometimes fail. We must also be teaching girls What a gift "has to offer and wait for someone special who wants to be committed arrives. Not really give away the gift of the first boy who said: "I love you." Most teenagers will have sex because they think they will be together for a long time. Have the discussion with the boys and girls present and finding the definition of a "long time".
The girls are surprised to discover that a boy, a long period of about six months to one year. Guys will be surprised to discover that a girl, a long time is never. When asked if a girl knew that when we go into a sexual relationship the guy would only be about six months to a year she had sold her virginity to him, more than likely the answer would have been " no '
Adolescents must also seriously discuss the "What Ifs" of pregnancy. Young guys tend to be more ready to see the same adoption or abortion as an easy option to handle the problem. " Young girls were obviously more an emotional bond to be growing within them and are less likely to see one of these as an easy option after pregnancy has occurred. Young guys should be aware that this connection exists. It will come for them later in pregnancy or after birth.

The thought of pregnancy should be a little realistic fear to prevent pregnancy. To keep teens from getting pregnant, we need to teach young people how to be responsible, to be responsible for their bodies, with lives they affect in May, and the life they may possibly create. Encourage your teen to buy a dog if they want something to love unconditionally
Teach them the responsibility for feeding, walking, earn money to pay visits to the vet, and etcetera. If an adolescent is unable to care for a dog, ask them how they will always be able to take care of a child. Encourage your teen to participate in extracurricular activities. There will be less time to worry about finding a boyfriend or girlfriend. Encourage your teen to find a job for the same reason, but to really start planning their future. Plan for college. Plan for the labor market. Then ask: "How can a baby fit into those plans? Strengthen accountability to self and abstinence.